Thursday, 28 April 2011

Perception

Ali: "Hey, what you doing? I miss you! Okay, I'll see you tonight.. I love you sooo..."

Okay, stop there!

Who do you think is Ali talking to?? Hmmm.

Okay, let's get down to business. What I'm trying to say is 'Have you realize that we have a lot of judgemental people in our society? And they aren't even that perfect.

As soon as they see something they don't like,

"Hey, why are you holding her hands?"
"Why you don't wear a hijab? Bad muslim!"
"What both of you (boy and girl) doing in this room?"

I know what you guys think right now. Bad perception isn't it?

"Apahal diorang dok pegang tangan tu? Tak tahu dosa ke? Apa punya muslim la"
"Kenapalah wanita tu tak pakai tudung? Tak tahu ke setiap rambut yang dia tunjuk tu aurat? Bad, bad, bad muslim"
"Apa diorang buat dalam bilik tu? Maksiat ke? Astaghfirullah"

Keep thinking, keep wondering what the hell are they doing. Bla, bla, bla.

Oh my god people, stop over thinking! Do you know why they do that? Do you know what is actually they really doing? Do you know???

Please people, your mind is working too hard! Don't judge people like that just because from what you see. There must be a reason why they did that. You guys who really love to judge people from the appearance, better stop! I'm saying this because it is really not good for you and of course not for our society too.

Suspend your judgement. If you're on your way to judge people, you need to step back. Train that in yourself. And I know, training yourself is the hardest thing to do.

Because let's face it, for some people, passing judgement is like a reflects. That's why they called it a snap judgement.

Then, consider you don't know. We have to realize that each and one of us are different. We have unique backgrounds, we have unique experiences. Try to think of other explanation and other possibilities that might explain you just saw. Hmm

"Maybe, that girl is his wife"
"Maybe, she's trying to wear a hijab, but her parents disapproves of it"
"Maybe, they have conversation to talk about in private"

If you practice these in your daily lives, InsyaAllah we will have more compassion in our dealings with other people.

If you already have the judgement in your head, like "she's uncivilized, you're bad muslim, bla, bla, bla. You're not giving that person a chance.

Just because the girl don't want to wear a hijab and a brother is holding some girl's hands or whatever, that does not mean that they are less able muslim than us.

"But aren't they doing something wrong?"

Yes, I agree. But that doesn't give you a right to judge them is it? So, leave the judging part to Allah SWT. Before you jump into a conclusion, take a step back and think of other possibilities to explain the situation because things are not always what they seem to be.

Back to Ali.

Ali: sooo much. Okay mom! I gotta go. Assalamualaikum.


p/s Don't judge a book by its cover.
Credit to Mohd Aiman.

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